you're one in a million to me: the Proverbs 31.. guy?

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I'm over it. It's a culmination of years of boys, dating, heartbreak, and just not getting it right. Years of falling for the troubled guy that I want to change (i.e., project), the guy who thinks he knows everything (and of course doesn't), the guy who thinks he has it all together (but only in his mind) – in short, the wrong guys. I go out and just see lost people. Guys who think that being falling-over-drunk is attractive. Who think that Vineyard Vines and a southern accent are going to win the prize.

Seriously, where is the Proverbs 31 guy? 

Sure, it is the chapter from the book of wisdom that every girl who's ever come within a 10 mile radius of a bible study has ever read. It's about how a Godly woman should aspire to be. But are those things not 100% applicable to men, too?

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised." 

Why can't you substitute man in there? "A man who fears the Lord is to be praised."

That's what I'm looking for. I'm sick of those guys who think that masking themselves in GQ's editorial looks is going to cover a cobweb-inside. Who think that being charming is going to change that they are really a complete jerk and only after one thing. Who tell you what you want to hear, but only for personal gain.
That's not God's plan. God's plan is for a man who isn't falling over drunk; who isn't just looking for a little fun; who isn't on the prowl. His plan is for someone who is respectful; someone who is disciplined; someone who is going to be the spiritual leader of a family one day. Someone who loves in a 1 Corinthians 13 way, as cliche as it may sound. I just don't see that out there a lot. I think it finally clicked for me last night. I was out, and I just looked around at all of these people and thought, of all of the perfectly dressed guys who look exactly like what I picture in my head as my "perfect type," I realized how completely ubiquitous they all seemed. A dime a dozen. No, I don't want that, I want the good-Christian-leader-of-a-family-respectful-mature-disciplined guy. I can tell you right now, it's a lot harder to find, but God's plan is perfect, and it is worth the wait. This little rant might cost me some fun, but oh well, who cares?

I don't want a dime a dozen, I want one in a million.

By God's Grace.

I just had to post this. I just repinned this onto my weddings pinboard, and out of everything on that board, this is the most representative thing about what marriage really is. Not dresses, bridesmaids, food, decorations, not a wedding,  but two people becoming one and serving each other in order to serve God. Chill. Bumps. I love when someone just gets it right and then reminds me that it's not ultimately about the frills, but about Him.